What Do You Want?
What Do You Want?
Join me for a journey beyond tech into the heart of what we truly want.
“What do you want?”
This simple question starts all my coaching sessions — whether I’m coaching someone or whether I’m being coached.
The question of what we want becomes a compass. It guides the attention of energy toward what truly matters.
When we get clear on that question, amidst all the emotions that might surround it, we get the clarity to powerfully move forward on what we want in life. When we’re not clear, it doesn’t matter how much energy we’re putting in.
The importance of the question reminds me of the conversation between Alice and the Cheshire Cat in Lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland:
Alice: Which way should I go?
Cat: That depends on where you are going.
Alice: I don’t know.
Cat: Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.
On a meta-level, it’s also been the question that I’ve been exploring for the past two years — ever since I decided to quit tech and ventured into a deep inquiry of what I wanted to be creating and teaching next.
And though I may have quit the tech world, my roots as an engineer have stuck around.
Those roots have provided a systems-oriented lens as I’ve explored topics on being human — everything from how to create intimacy, how to move emotions like anger, or how to use intimate partnership as a container for transformation.
They’ve also anchored in the concept of leverage as an idea that continues to be highly influential in my life and alive in my consciousness. If you’ve followed me from my days working on The Effective Engineer, you’ll be familiar with leverage as the idea of focusing on the activities that produce the highest impact for our investment of energy.
In the background of all my personal growth and exploration has been the question:
What’s the highest-leverage investment we can make towards our fulfillment in life?
I didn’t want a one-off or theoretical answer — something that was only true for me or that was only true for a particular chapter in life or that left questions about its effectiveness.
I wanted a systems-oriented and timeless answer — one that we could learn, validate in our felt sense of experience of the world, and that if we embodied at any point, would fundamentally and deeply impact our lives.
It’s taken many years, and I’m excited to share that I’ve finally grounded the answer to that question into a model and framework that I can share with the world.
And next week, I’ll be announcing a new course I’m teaching in March that goes to the heart of that question and what we want in life. The course represents the culmination of this exploration and distills the essence of seven years of intense personal transformation work. It’s also the start of where I see myself investing my energy for the next decade.
The course answers the question —
What’s the ONE thing you can shift that will bring the greatest aliveness, possibility, and fulfillment to everything else in your life?
Whether the thing you’re most wanting is a breakthrough in your life purpose, your career, your relationships, your intimate partnership, or something else — the course will systematically teach you how to master the ONE thing at the foundation of all personal transformation.
I’ve partnered with an amazing co-creator and am super stoked about this adventure. Look out for more details next week.
Do you have a burning idea to share?
Next Monday, Feb 13th, my favorite online school — Write of Passage — will be hosting a free workshop on why you must write and share your ideas with the world and show you how it can be done. You’ll get a glimpse of their new and improved 5-week writing bootcamp that I’ll be joining for the 4th time in the spring.
In their Using Writing to Build Influence workshop you will learn:
Why one great piece of writing can change your life.
The secret ingredient to successful online writing.
The four steps to take an idea and share it with the world.