Awakening Our Soul's Yearning
Awakening Our Soul's Yearning
A pointer on discovering the life's work that we were born to do.
Want to find the relationship to life, work, and love that your soul has been yearning for? Our 4-week Mastering Desire course starting on March 11th offers powerful frameworks and time-tested tools to connect with what you truly want — so that you can create a life that lights your heart and soul on fire.
After years of soul searching, I’ve finally found it.
The place where I’m willing to let myself care so deeply about the soul work I’m doing — that I make myself vulnerable to devastating heartbreak if I were to fail.
The place of choiceless choice — where I’m finally able to boldly step forward into the mystery and surrender, trusting that whatever happens will be in greatest service of my and others’ evolution.
The place where creation and entrepreneurship perfectly align with my spiritual journey — and where the guiding question is no longer “what will make money?” but “what expands my soul the most?”
Ever since I quit teaching tech leadership workshops two years ago, I’ve been on a quest to find this elusive place.
It no longer seemed aligned to work or create for the purpose of earning money.
It felt draining to start with customer interviews to answer the question “What do people want?” — when I wasn’t perfectly clear on what I wanted.
Even one-on-one coaching, which for a long time felt joyous, stopped feeling fully in alignment.
“Why am I here? What am I here for?” I kept asking myself.
Now I know.
I’m here to awaken and liberate humanity by helping us feel at home and empowered with our core desires.
It’s a bold mission — simultaneously a big dream and the truth that I know my soul is here to embody.
Connecting with Our Sacred Purpose
In The Great Work of Your Life, Stephen Cope writes, “When it comes to dharma, missing by an inch is as good as missing by a mile.”
For a long time, I felt that sentiment deeply — I felt myself just slightly off in the work that I was doing. Things didn’t quite feel right, and I felt the unsatisfying irritation of missing the itch in my soul by an inch.
It’s taken me some time to come back into alignment with what I now recognize as my sacred purpose.
What is it that makes a purpose sacred?
It’s the inner knowing that what you’re doing is what you were uniquely born to do.
It’s the empowered sense that you’re creating the perfectly shaped hole in the world for the one-of-a-kind puzzle piece that you are.
It’s the intersection of what’s in highest service for you and for those that you’re serving.
For me, my sacred purpose is awakening our connection to our desires.
This is the sacred purpose that gives the deepest meaning to my own wounding, that shines light on the darkest chapters of my life.
Chapters like the hopeless moment five years ago, my head collapsed into my hands in my apartment — feeling so trapped, alone, and helpless in a 17-year-long sexless relationship (and 8-year-long marriage) and not knowing how to break free without destroying my entire life.
Or the painful moments three years ago in my current partnership when we were still navigating questions of monogamy and polyamory and I didn’t feel like I fit into my own life.
Or even the depressive moments last year as I kept pressurizing myself to figure out what I wanted to do with my life — which of course killed all creativity.
This is the work that my soul has been yearning to find and create for years.
The work that my heart would be willing to pour itself into for the next decade.
And the feeling here is sweet.
It’s the feeling of all my internal gears clicking into alignment.
The feeling of trust and rest that comes from having found my true North, deep within my core.
The feeling of energy around my life purpose finally liberated, because I’m no longer in my own way.
The feeling of my molecules dancing with aliveness, resonating with how I’m moving in the world.
And having made contact with this place and this feeling, I know I can find it back again if I were to ever get lost.
Are You Feeling the Call to Your Sacred Purpose?
The hero’s journey to this place and feeling isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. The road is long and challenging, and once you start, it’s difficult to turn back. But it will also be the most fulfilling journey of your life.
It took me 11 years of climbing the mountain of conventional success in tech before I realized that getting to the summit wouldn’t get me the fulfillment I wanted, and I needed every one of those years before I decided I was ready.
You’ll know if you’re ready when you hear the voice inside you that says to follow the call.
Hearing that voice requires stillness.
It requires letting all the conditioning about what you should be doing with your life to wash through and die down.
It requires being quiet enough to connect with the deep essence inside you that knows your truth and what’s in service of your highest good.
It requires trusting that you were born for something more.
In his book Soulcraft, wilderness guide and psychologist Bill Plotkin talks about this call:
There is a great longing within each of us. We long to discover the secrets and mysteries of our individual lives, to find our unique way of belonging to this world, to recover the never-before-seen treasure we were born to bring to our communities.
If you’re feeling the call to discover your sacred purpose, one of the things I most wished I had was a guide — someone with a clear map to guide me on the journey. It would’ve saved me so many years of trial and error.
I’d love to be that guide for you. Starting March 11th, I’m running a 4-week program with my dear friend and master coach Katrina Uychaco on Mastering Desire.
The path to connecting with our sacred purpose comes from first deeply connecting with and living from our deepest desires — both on a day-to-day level and in every important area of our lives. When we’re connected with that place and feeling of what we truly want and what we are here for, there’s nothing that can stop us.
And so we’re gathering a small and intimate group and sharing the most powerful frameworks and effective tools we’ve learned to connect with our soul’s deepest desires. We’ll guide people through how to resolve emotional blocks and limiting beliefs that hold us back.
We'll help create felt changes in day-to-day life as we connect with and make real our core desires in life purpose, partnership, relationships, and even sexual intimacy.
More importantly, we’ll take them to this sweet place and touch the feeling where they’re in deep alignment with themselves.
Where they feel at home in their own skin, wherever they are in the world.
Where their core desires become their greatest source of liberation.
Where they’re living on purpose and on fire with life.
If you want to be part of this group, learn more here:
My friend David Perell runs a writing school called Write of Passage that teaches people to create a range of opportunities for themselves by sharing ideas on the internet. His work has been hugely transformational and supportive for me in connecting with my sacred purpose. On Wednesday, March 13th, he’s offering a 1-hour live workshop that gives attendees a taste of his 5-week writing bootcamp. Register here.